Tend to Your Appearance (Small Change #14)

While I wrote about focusing more on one's inner beauty than one's physical appearance, it doesn't mean we should forget about looking good and not care a bit about appearances. We should care about how we look. That we should always be well-groomed and presentable. And women wants to look and pretty.

There is this popular Filipino terminology - losyang - which relates to a woman letting herself go and forgetting about taking care of herself after being married for a number of years and after giving birth. I am fighting very hard against this. Honestly, it is darn hard as you hardly have time left for yourself, more so to keep yourself pretty.

But we need to try our hardest to stay well-groomed and be pretty for our sake and our husband's sake.

True beauty is also external.

Elizabeth George shared more timeless beauty tips in this chapter. Interested to know what God's guidelines are? What His dress code is?

MODESTY (Do I look pure?)

To be modest is to behave, dress, and speak in a way that is considered proper... especially before God.

Proper does not mean boring. There are so many beautiful clothes out there that are decent and not calling the attention of every man who lays eyes on you.

I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes

- 1 Timothy 2:9 (NIV)

PROPRIETY (Is my image reflecting a proper image of a woman of God?)

Propriety is modesty mixed with humility.

Didn't we all think Kate Middleton's wedding dress was beautiful? It was simple. Not even beadings. There was lace which covered her arms. She was marrying a prince yet she decided to keep herself covered (yes I know that was what the Church of England and the Queen Mother want) and her wedding dress was so simple.

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

- Proverbs 31:30

MODERATION (Would my appearance cause someone to stumble?)

Women should not dress excessively nor show off your wealth by wearing all your jewelries.

Dressing with moderation also refers to self-control "so as not to lead another into sin."

What's a Woman to Wear?

How does a woman discern the sometimes fine line between proper dress and dressing to be the center of attention? The answer starts in the intent of the heart. A woman should examine her motives and goals for the way she dresses. Is her intent to show the grace and beauty of womanhood? Is it to show her love and devotion to her husband and his goodness to her? Is it to reveal a humble heart devoted to worshiping God?

Or is it to call attention to herself, and flaunt her wealth and beauty? Or worse, to attempt to allure men sexually? A woman who focuses on worshiping God will consider carefully how she is dressed because her heart will dictate her wardrobe and appearance.

- Commentary of Dr. John MacArthur

The author's practical beauty tips:

Dress up.

Keep your clothes simple but dress with a touch of class. Wear what is appropriate for the occasion and time of day. Be a role model. Be neater, cleaner and better-groomed. It is better to arrive at any function looking slightly better than others than slightly worse, right?

Fix up.

For married women, think of your husbands. Look beautiful for them.

Wear something clean and nice, wash your face, brush your teeth, fix yourself up when he is about to come home then wear that smile.

Clean up.

Self-explanatory. Cleanliness is next to Godliness.

Look up.

Seek God.

To recap, ladies may we:

  • Develop godly character - it is your best outfit.
  • Seek God's approval rather than that of the world.
  • Watch what you wear - your clothing is sending a message!
And there a woman met him,
With the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart.
She was loud and rebellious,
Her feet would not stay at home.
- Proverbs 7:10-11 NKJV

  • Wear what is appropriate for the occasion and as a daughter of the King.
  • Don't worry about following the crowd-you have a higher standard.

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