Staying Positive

I am a worrier. In my present state, there are just too many instances where things could go wrong. I think it was yesterday when I put down this book I was reading, What To Expect When You're Expecting. I reached the chapter about Labor and Delivery and it scared the wits out of me. Today, I learned of a couple more other things that could wrong with the pregnancy and the baby. Yes it is good to arm yourself with all these information but not to the point where it feels like it is the bane of my existence.

My point is the world is a scary place on its own and there is no need to scare myself more by feeding my mind with all these horror stories. Also I would not want to attract all these negative vibes into my system as we tend to attract what we think.

Instead, I choose to pray, be grateful and hold on to my faith. As I have always repeated, God has never failed me.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
-- Philippians 4:8 (NIV)

What is true is my pregnancy has been easy and complications-free. Praise God for that. I am sure that my baby would appreciate a mother who is positive and joyful.

Five Things I Miss Most

Being pregnant is life changing. It also means sacrificing a few things for nine months (or more as I intend to breastfeed).

The things I miss most are:

1. Caffeine - No coffee or any colas as it can weaken the baby's heart.

2. Massage -May cause contractions. I find it ironic as I feel I needed massage the most when my body is aching all over due to all the changes.

3. Fitness First Group Exercise - Before I found out I was on the way, I was attending five classes a week: Body Combat, Body Pump, Body Balance, Body Attack and Cycling. Now I can only do prenatal yoga at home.

4. Alcohol - I'm no alcoholic nor do I drink a lot. However, there are times when I'd wish Jed and I could have a nightcap and we'd both be sipping something alcoholic. I always end up drinking steamed milk instead as I can't have coffee, too.

5. Junk Food - I'm supposed to cut down my salt intake which means no chips or anything salty for me. Once in a while, I would crave for my favorite Ruffles Cheddar and Sour Cream chips or the Lucky Me Pancit Canton. Yes, I know they're unhealthy and I'm probably better off without them.

I told my husband to please bring me a cup of caramel macchiato in the hospital after I give birth. But I don't think he will give in to my request as he knows I would like to breastfeed. And he knows that whatever food I eat or drink will also be passed on to our son.

Tsk tsk tsk for me.

What Are Little Boys Made Of

What are little boys made of?

Frogs and snails And puppy-dogs' tails,

That's what little boys are made of.

God never failed us. Jed and I prayed for a baby boy, and our prayer got answered. Praise God!

We went for my congenital scanning yesterday. I dreaded this moment. Scared of the findings of the scan. Of the baby's gender.

Everyone who has seen me pregnant has told me, I look like I am carrying a girl. Everyone, except three people - my dear brother, and two friends from my former workplace. Deep inside, I know the Lord will not fail me. He never has. Still, the thought of finding out the gender seemed nerve wracking for me.

I was all smiles during the scan, happy to see how my baby is growing. Jed was also in the room, and I was glad he was experiencing it with me. We saw the baby's face, arms, hands, body, spine, legs, and the cute baby feet. Our baby was showing us how active he is. He kept on moving around.

Then the doctor asked if we wanted to find out the gender. I answered her nervously, "Yes." She asked what's our guess, and I told her we wanted a boy but everyone's telling us we might be having a girl. And then she pointed out something in the screen. Well well well, look at we have -- a baby boy!!

I was close to tears. I just know God will not let us down. This wonderful news brought back the joy in my heart. Jed and I were ecstatic. We spent the day window shopping for things the baby would need. I showed him the crib I wanted. We checked out prices of diapers, etc.

Another chapter in our life is about to begin. We look forward to welcoming our son in to this world.

What’s To Love About Cebu?

Moving to Cebu was more difficult than I imagined. If I didn't love my husband, moving here would not have crossed my mind. Visit, yes. But settle here, even temporarily, no.

I miss Manila and wish I am back there almost every single day. But I know I needed to be here with my husband.

Adjusting to the life here was a big struggle for me. One of my girlfriends constantly reminded me to manage my expectations. I still haven’t adjusted fully ( I don’t think I ever will – at the back of my mind I know we’re only here temporarily), but I am getting by.

Living here has taught me to live simpler. I gasped the first few times I was in a supermarket here and could not find a Gardenia bread or those ready-to-eat salad greens. Imagine my dismay when I entered the moviehouses here, and almost cried as I truly miss the moviehouses in Glorietta, Greenbelt, Trinoma, Powerplant and Shangri-la Plaza. For me, it’s the end of my movie watching days. In the absence of Zara and Gap, I never shopped for clothes, except for my biking shorts. I do not need new clothes anyway as I stopped going to work. Do not get me started on the restaurants and food I miss. On my first trimester of pregnancy, I was craving for the simple taho, lugaw and pancit from Bulacan. Jed had to look for a taho vendor around Cebu City which took him almost an hour. Well, the bottom line is I can definitely save money here as I rarely go out and temptations (shopping malls) are out of the way.

Now, let’s go back to my subject, what I love about Cebu?
  • There is never a shortage of taxis. I just stand outside our street and a taxi would stop almost immediately.
  • We are 10 minutes away from everything – the mall, restaurants, hospital, and church. The resort is a completely different story. But then Jed’s commute to work is less stressful than threading the streets of Metro Manila.
  • Our apartment’s location is pretty central yet I could see trees everywhere, hear birds chirping in the morning and the air seems cleaner here.
  • We are half an hour away from the beach or the mountains.
  • Hola Espana has the best churros.
  • Delicious and affordable food from CafĂ© Laguna, Abuhan and Golden Cowrie.
  • Pizza from Acqua and Giuseppe.
  • Abaseria’s adobong bangus belly.
  • Restaurants like Rica’s.
  • Local bakeshops like Kate’s and Leona’s.
  • Sbarro's never get full in Cebu.
  • Driving is easier here. I feel like I’m back in Bulacan.
  • Best corn-on-the-cob from Busay.
  • Cost of living here is generally lower compared to Manila.
  • Peace and quiet. No distractions.
Jed and I knew why we needed to be here in Cebu. We got pregnant! And being here entailed an easy pregnancy for me. I’m on my 25th week, and I never had to be on bed rest.

Cebu has brought Jed and I closer. It’s all about us here, and no one else. We struggled together, learned from each other encouraged one another, and grew stronger as a couple.

Who I Aspire To Be

My prayer each day is to become the best wife for Jed, and in a few months be a good mother to our child, and children to come.

If I could only read this passage every single day to remind me of what I should be. Maybe I should. And I could become this spectacular woman through God's help.

Let me share with you Proverbs 31: 10-31:

10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.

11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.

12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.

13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.

14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.

15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.

16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.

18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.

19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.

26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:

29 "Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

31 Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

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